Let your child get bored

In a world that is so fast-paced, we need to let our children become bored from time to time! Boredom actually allows the brain to recover from the overstimulated world that we live in.

So many parents think that it’s their responsibility to fill every moment of their child’s time with activities, extracurriculars or screens. We all know how it feels to see the moms on social media doing ALL the things— crafts, field trips, baking, sports, dance and so on. I’ve been there finding myself wondering, “am I doing enough?” And that’s one of the best parts about embracing and encouraging this unstructured time— no more guilt! We can let that go because boredom is actually GOOD for them!

Being bored teaches us that life isn’t all rainbows and fireworks because as adults, we all know know that IT IS NOT.

Unstructured down time encourages creativity, independent thinking, and problem solving skills. Allowing that open ended time gives our children the opportunity to explore their inner selves and the world around them, diving deep into their interests and discovering their unique skills and passions! We aren’t nurturing them by giving them a toy that makes all of the noise for them or plopping them in front of the TV OR keeping them so busy that they don’t get to spend any time with themselves.

When a child is bored, it allows their minds to wander. As stated above, it’s not our jobs to entertain our kids but rather give them tools to be imaginative and creative. If we spend our time filling up our children’s spare time, they’ll never learn to do it for themselves. Boredom is good for the brain!

“I think it’s necessary to let kids get bored once in a while— that’s how they learn to be creative.” – Kim Raver

Do you let your kid(s) get bored?

xxoo Kate

My Daily Affirmations

This year I wanted to make a list of daily affirmations. I don’t plan to look over this list every single day but I’d love to keep it handy for the reminder when I need to regroup. This list is very much tailored to me and what I feel that I need. I really encourage you to make your own list to keep near. If you see anything from my list that speaks to you, please add it to yours!

My Affirmations

I am allowed to do what is right for me.

I can’t do everything for everyone and that’s okay.

The best gift that I can give my children is a happy mom.

I deserve to be loved.

Put in the effort to achieve what I want.

God wants me to rest.

Slow down, breathe, relax your body.

I am in control of my thoughts, not my feelings.

I am allowed to feel my feelings and then work through them.

I am confident and empowered.

We are all just trying our best.

What I have to say is of value.

I have the ability to reach others.

I have enough, I am enough.

God’s in control, I am not.

I am blessed with everything that I need.

What is something that you would add to your list right now?

xxoo Kate

Lassig Diaper Bag Product Review

Diaper bags… oh diaper bags. Why must you look so diaper-baggy?

Moms need convenience in their lives and often times we sacrifice style in order to achieve that.

When I first started “momming” I decided that I was going to take the cool-mom route and ditch my old diaper bag for a really cute Calvin Klein crossbody bag. Sadly, it was just one big compartment and I was always rifling through it trying to find what I needed. So, I was on the hunt again but this time, for something a bit more practical.

I wanted a diaper bag that was completely functional but also stylish. I also really wanted one that I could use on my back. I didn’t want to use an actual backpack but with two toddlers and a newborn, I needed something hands-free.

I came across the Lassig bags and instantly fell in love with the design of this Glam Goldie backpack in the color Rose. It’s actually meant for twins but hey, I need the space! It can be carried by handles, worn crossbody OR on your back. Ding ding ding, we have a winner!

It is structured so it doesn’t flop around and comes with so many amazing compartments. If you know me, I love organized storage. It comes with a large waterproof changing mat, a water-repellant wet compartment for keeping water bottles or snacks cold and a removable food jar holder. There are places for your cellphone, food, a key ring, and even has stroller hooks, seriously – you name it!

If you’ve got your hands full, this is the bag for you.

If you’re looking for something smaller but equally as awesome, they have plenty of other choices and styles to choose from. Click here to check them out!

xxoo Kate

New Year Goals 2019

I like setting goals for myself. I don’t make myself sick trying to obtain them but I do enjoy having something to strive for or redirect my focus if need be.

Here are my goals for the new year…

1. Organize my photos

I have so many photos on my camera, phone and computer. I fear losing them so I need to organize and back them up so I can let go of that anxiety that’s always in the back of my mind.

2. Delve deeper into minimalism

About a year ago my husband and I decided to live a more minimalistic lifestyle. It’s an every day process but every single week we have boxes and bags full of things that we donate to people that need them.

3. Paint my kitchen and bedroom

I strongly dislike painting but I’d really like it to get done. I’m super into all white walls because I love how fresh and clean it makes our space feel. I think I’ll put it off until summer though so I can open the windows and get some fresh air up in here.

4. Go to bed by midnight

I’ve found myself staying up hours past Olive after she falls asleep. I wake up in the morning exhausted and I know it’s partly because I stay up so late. This one is going to be hard for me but I know it’s for the best.

5. Go on one date per month

I want to make my husband more of a priority. TJ is such a wonderful partner and has kindly taken a several steps out of the spotlight since the girls have been born. They’re my focus at most times and it’s only fair that I take one day out of the month to focus on him.

6. Pray with my family

I’d like to start praying with TJ. We’ve done it a few times before but I’d like to make it more of a “thing” as a husband and wife putting God in the center of our marriage. I also pray every night with my girls but it should be an all day kind of thing, a way of life.

7. Continue to say “no

I have been so good about saying no lately. I love the freeing feeling I get when I’m able to just say no to the things I don’t feel like doing. I have however been tiptoeing on eggshells around several people in my life. I am constantly feeling bad for my choices but that ends today. I will live my life how I want to live it and that’s that!

Do you have any goals for 2019? S in the comments!

xxoo Kate

10 Things I’ve Learned in 2018

1. My body is powerful – This one is number one on my list because it is fresh in my mind. I birthed my third child just shy of three months ago and it was such a healing experience. I told God I wanted an unmedicated birth and he helped me make it happen, even when I tried back out, ha! I feel so empowered. I may look a little more squishy on the outside but I am strong.

2. Purging makes me feel light – About a year ago I made the decision to try and live minimally. It didn’t come easy at first because I have always formed emotional attachments to things. Now though, it’s much easier. I remember my husband wasn’t on board at first but once he saw how freeing it was, he was in! We purge daily and every week bags of things are donated to people that need them. We have less to clean and less to worry about. It feels so good.

3. Just say no – It’s been my year of saying “no.” If I don’t truly want to do something, I say no. I used to want to make everyone happy all the time and while that all sounds fine and dandy, I was neglecting my wants and needs. Sometimes, I just need to stay home and cuddle my babies or hangout with my hubs and that’s okay. At first I felt guilty but now I know that I’m simply taking care of myself. It’s okay to say no!

4. Get out – This may seem to contradict my last lesson learned. It is, in a way. The reason I say this is because sometimes it’s easy to just stay home all of the time and never do anything that fulfills your soul. I force myself to go to a bible study one evening every week, and also attend a women’s group once a month. There are days that I don’t really feel like going, but I do because I know it’s good for me and I leave feeling fulfilled. So whether it’s a bible study, a morning walk, a date night with friends or your significant other, go do it. Do it for you!

5. Schedules are okay – For a while I really wanted to be the cool, go with the flow mom. That fun, spontaneous wife. You know what I mean, the one that doesn’t obsess over a schedule, the one that can just say, “yeah why not? I don’t have anything planned today.” Yeah… I’m not that person at all! I love my planner. I love it because honestly, my brain hardly functions some days. I need reminders about where to be and when. Kudos to those people that can just remember… I cannot… and that’s okay! I feel so much better about myself when I know what’s going on.

6. Appreciate the “little” things – Take each day as it is and keep a positive attitude. When I wake up with expectations I will surely be disappointed because that’s life. I’m a true mess most days but I’ve learned to embrace it. It’s the simple things make me happy -my kids laughing, writing, hot apple cider, baby cuddles, and watching tv with my husband. Those seemingly small things are actually the most important. A little appreciation can go a long way.

7. Hygge makes me happy – This past year my husband and I discovered the idea of hygge. Hygge is a Danish word used when acknowledging a feeling or a moment, whether alone or with friends, at home or out, ordinary or extraordinary as cozy, charming or special. We’ve moved 3 times this year, finally settling into our (most likely) forever home. We have been creating an inviting, cozy space filled with warm lighting and comfy blankets because that’s what brings us joy and calm. Hygge is simple and easy and nothing needs to be bought in order to accomplish it.

8. Let go of hurt – It’s the day to day discouragement that seem to get the best of me at times. Some examples off the top of my head would be sitting down at night and feeling guilty for how I chose to react to my toddler’s defiance, or resenting my husband for getting to go to work and be around adults, or the hurt I feel when I make a meal that no one really likes. Just let it go. My biggest goal is really just forgiving myself. I am trying the best that I know how and that is all that I can do. The rest can set free. God doesn’t hold grudges and he forgives, I want to be like that too.

9. Don’t lust – (Not just in the sexual way) Sometimes I find myself aw-ing over people’s Instagram photo thinking “How on earth did she find time to do her hair and makeup with four kids?” “How is their house so clean?” “How can they afford to take trips every month?” They could be in debt, maybe they have a cleaning lady, maybe they’re taking a picture of the one clean corner in their house, maybe they’re really just THAT good. I’ll never have the answers. Whatever it is, it’s not my life. I’m doing my best with what I have and I’m so unbelievably blessed. You can absolutely allow another person to inspire you but never allow yourself to feel pressure.

10. Say hello to strangers – I am one hundred percent an empath. I’ve always been drawn to people. I give out compliments left and right, hold doors, make eye contact. I share food with people on the street and spark up conversation while standing in lines. I probably make people uncomfortable honestly. I really think it’s sad how disconnected our world has become. I genuinely want to hear about other people’s lives and share a conversation with them. If that idea makes you totally uncomfortable, just try putting your phone in your pocket, make eye contact and smile. It will change your life.

xxoo Kate

Gift guide for active toddlers

We all know what it’s like to get ants in our pants. Kids especially need to burn off their energy because they have so much of it. Some kids are just climbers, others could use a little help with coordination but nearly all kids just need to move. These gifts are perfect for just that!

1.Pikler Triangle I just found out about these within the last 2 years and they’ve fascinated me ever since! They’re perfect for climbers and can be used before your child can even walk. Additional attachments can be purchased like slides and more! I talk more about Pikler triangles here.

2.Toddler Slide If you decide against a Pikler and you want something a little more simple, you can’t go wrong with a slide. Kids love slides and no one says you can’t have one indoors!

3. DIY balance beam This year we’re asking Santa’s elves to make this beam and a Pikler for Christmas. I must say, the triangle is kind of complex to make but even I could make this balance beam! Balancing is a skill that must be mastered so why not make it fun?

4.Bilibo seats These versatile play objects are multi award winning and perfect for open ended play! The possibilities are nearly endless including rocking , hiding, spinning, standing on and more!

5.Balance board The balance boards were originally found in Waldorf schools but made their way into people’s homes. These are great for imaginative play, strength building and exercise. They can be used by children of all ages.

6.Mini trampoline It’s important for kids to stay active and this is the perfect pastime activity! My middle child loves to bounce and I’m here to tell you that this trampoline provides an exceptional energy-burning outlet for toddlers.

7.Gonge hilltops My girls got these for Christmas last year that they’ve been a hit ever since! They are one of the few things that get used every single day. Hilltops develop children’s ability to estimate distances and make them familiar with heights.

8.Pod swing These can be used indoors or outdoors but we plan to use it inside because my kiddos and I get some serious cabin fever (we have 8 months of snow). These hammock swings help develop a child‘s sense of balance and body awareness but at the same time can be used for relaxation.

9.Rock wall Our home is a child-centered zone. I want space for the kids to explore and have fun because why not?! Who says you can’t make a rock wall inside your house?

10.Bounce horse The only thing my oldest daughter wanted this year was a pony. She suggested a real one but we decided he or she would be too cold outside and too big to live inside so she decided to ask Santa for a “toy pony that she could ride on.”

11.Tunnel I don’t know what it is about tunnels but kids love them. They’re great for imaginative adventures. As a parent, I like these ones because they collapse down and store very easily!

12.Basketball hoop I’m going to be honest and say that we use the basketball hoop just as much as our girls do. There is something so satisfying about throwing a ball from across the living room and making it. Things get pretty heated between my husband and I but hey, the kids like it too. It’s a fun family activity!

13.Indoor play gym Also known as a Swedish wall, this play gym comes with it all- ropes, rings, climbing wall, ladder, ramp, swing. All of these features are great for climbing and coordination skills!

14.Sit n spin My girls love to spin… and spin and spin! They always end up smashing themselves off of things and getting hurt so with this sit n spin, at least they’re sitting down!

15.Indoor climbing dome These domes can be used outdoors but if you have the space, indoors too! They’re great for climbing and hours of fun!

xxoo Kate

Our Second Wedding Anniversary

In two days, Halloween, it will be our second wedding anniversary and ELEVEN year dating anniversary…. Wow, that doesn’t even seem real. I’m choosing to write this now because Halloween is all about the kids and I know I’ll be caught up in the hustle and bustle!

Our relationship was a rollercoaster for years. Extremely passionate but very unhealthy. How does that song go, “We’re like fire and gasoline?” – that was us. Roaring hot and utterly destructive.

I could go on and on and maybe someday I will but for now I’ll leave it at “we were very immature” and move on to the good stuff.

We are completely different people these days. I still have the hots for him don’t get me wrong, but our relationship is also filled with comfort. He’s my best friend and I love spending time with him. He’s cozy and has the biggest heart. I am beyond thankful that things worked out for us because most of the time, with relationships that start out like ours, they don’t… or they do and then you live your life in toxicity.

Finding God together was the best thing that ever happened to us. Some day I’ll elaborate on the change the has Lord made in our lives because it was and continues to be quite miraculous. Right now, I just want to give a big thank you to my husband TJ and an even bigger I LOVE YOU!

I’m thankful that I have someone to count down the minutes every day until he gets home from work. Sure, I enjoy his helping hand with the kids (HA) but I just really enjoy his presence.

I’m also really thankful that we were able to sneak off together this past weekend for a lunch date to eat some amazing sandwiches.

Happy almost second wedding (11 year dating) anniversary Travis!

xxoo Kate