Let your child get bored

In a world that is so fast-paced, we need to let our children become bored from time to time! Boredom actually allows the brain to recover from the overstimulated world that we live in.

So many parents think that it’s their responsibility to fill every moment of their child’s time with activities, extracurriculars or screens. We all know how it feels to see the moms on social media doing ALL the things— crafts, field trips, baking, sports, dance and so on. I’ve been there finding myself wondering, “am I doing enough?” And that’s one of the best parts about embracing and encouraging this unstructured time— no more guilt! We can let that go because boredom is actually GOOD for them!

Being bored teaches us that life isn’t all rainbows and fireworks because as adults, we all know know that IT IS NOT.

Unstructured down time encourages creativity, independent thinking, and problem solving skills. Allowing that open ended time gives our children the opportunity to explore their inner selves and the world around them, diving deep into their interests and discovering their unique skills and passions! We aren’t nurturing them by giving them a toy that makes all of the noise for them or plopping them in front of the TV OR keeping them so busy that they don’t get to spend any time with themselves.

When a child is bored, it allows their minds to wander. As stated above, it’s not our jobs to entertain our kids but rather give them tools to be imaginative and creative. If we spend our time filling up our children’s spare time, they’ll never learn to do it for themselves. Boredom is good for the brain!

“I think it’s necessary to let kids get bored once in a while— that’s how they learn to be creative.” – Kim Raver

Do you let your kid(s) get bored?

xxoo Kate

Our Second Wedding Anniversary

In two days, Halloween, it will be our second wedding anniversary and ELEVEN year dating anniversary…. Wow, that doesn’t even seem real. I’m choosing to write this now because Halloween is all about the kids and I know I’ll be caught up in the hustle and bustle!

Our relationship was a rollercoaster for years. Extremely passionate but very unhealthy. How does that song go, “We’re like fire and gasoline?” – that was us. Roaring hot and utterly destructive.

I could go on and on and maybe someday I will but for now I’ll leave it at “we were very immature” and move on to the good stuff.

We are completely different people these days. I still have the hots for him don’t get me wrong, but our relationship is also filled with comfort. He’s my best friend and I love spending time with him. He’s cozy and has the biggest heart. I am beyond thankful that things worked out for us because most of the time, with relationships that start out like ours, they don’t… or they do and then you live your life in toxicity.

Finding God together was the best thing that ever happened to us. Some day I’ll elaborate on the change the has Lord made in our lives because it was and continues to be quite miraculous. Right now, I just want to give a big thank you to my husband TJ and an even bigger I LOVE YOU!

I’m thankful that I have someone to count down the minutes every day until he gets home from work. Sure, I enjoy his helping hand with the kids (HA) but I just really enjoy his presence.

I’m also really thankful that we were able to sneak off together this past weekend for a lunch date to eat some amazing sandwiches.

Happy almost second wedding (11 year dating) anniversary Travis!

xxoo Kate